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Visualisations and Other Exercises

These are some self-development exercises that you can use at home

SELF HELP TIPS FOR RELIEVING STRESS

Calming Exercise for Centring with the Breath

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Finding Your Self-Love Mentor

Finding Your Yes

More to come soon.

Also check out the self-development videos available on my youtube channel here.

Recent Posts

The Sacred Feminine
Uplifting Words for the People Who Make Things +/ Make Things Better
My 5 Tips to Boost Wellness
Annual Review for 2020
Strong Feelings, How to Deal With Them and What they Can Teach Us

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Author and Coach teaching common sense self development. Supporting people to move forward and have more and more fulfilling lives.

I highly recommend reading this great book by @dav

I highly recommend reading this great book by @davidbodanis - one of my best 40th birthday presents! I am right at the beginning but already enjoying it very much.

I’ve always believed that people may treat you badly or push others out of the way to get ahead, but sooner or later the damage they have done to relationships, trust and their reputation will catch up with them.

And unfortunately I’m speaking out of experience as well, having been treated quite badly by one business partner in particular in the past year (but I’m OK, because of the support of kind people, so don’t worry about me). How you treat people, especially in times of stress when we are all feeling the strain, will reflect on you for many, many years to come.

I’m sure you’ve had a time in your life when you’ve been treated in unacceptable ways. And I feel like Hollywood has conditioned us to want our day in court, or have some kind of public reddressing of the balance. And this may happen, but you may have to move on without it. However, I feel like there is a kind of instant karma, because in my experience people who act this way are deeply unhappy in themselves. And that person will have to live with how they acted for the rest of their lives.

This is probably not the message of the book, but I wanted to make a post (even though I’m just in the first few pages) because I wanted to say if you have been treated badly, how important it is to gather yourself together. Spend your energy really wisely, re-focus on what is important to you and the direction you’re headed, and try not to dwell on things that make you feel bitter, because the more successful you get the more challenges you will face, the more you will threaten people and it is likely that more people will project qualities onto you that are nothing to do with you.

It isn’t fair, but dealing with a$€holes is an inevitable part of life rather than a rare occurrence. So take care of yourself, brush yourself off and keep going! I believe in you! 👏👍💪

#resilience #selfcare #stayingstrong #artoffairness #selflove #whatgoesaroundcomesaround #karma #karmaisabitch #bekind #bekindtoyourself #keepgoing

Wow, what an amazing conversation I had with @laur

Wow, what an amazing conversation I had with @lauraatucker on her podcast @freeyourinnerguru. We explored deeper aspects of self development work and practical tools you can benefit from it, which you can use straight away (link in bio).

In many ways a podcast guest is only as good as her host, and Laura‘s understanding of this work really helped me to do a deep dive on the benefits and also some of the shadow side of self development.

With her message of self empowerment and not giving over your power to others, it really aligned with my belief that we are all the source of our own wisdom. It’s my mission to share the tools that allow people to do this work and to be their own gurus and teachers.

I really hope you enjoy listening to this podcast. Also, listeners get exclusive access to a chapter from my book from The Art of Coming Home, which will give you some tools for working through emotion and finding more of your own inner truth.

If you enjoy it, do subscribe to Laura’s podcast and YouTube channel for more great insightful interviews, and do check out my blog for more tips you can use for your own self-empowerment. 🙏❤️

#selfdevelopment #selfempowerment #meditation #grounding #emotions #emotionalintelligence #leadership #shadow #shadowwork #innerpeace #selfcare #selflove #selfdevelopmenttips #freeyourinnerguru #theartofcominghome

I watched a video this morning by a coach called H

I watched a video this morning by a coach called Heather Christie talking about the idea that you get what you tolerate. I loved the simplicity and truth of that statement and it got me thinking.

It can show up in the quality of the work we receive, how much we are paid, how our time is valued and the way we’re treated. Are we doing work other people should be doing, adapting ourselves to fit them, allowing people to cross boundaries, overextending ourselves or even doing other people’s emotional “laundry” for them? And if so - why?

But it also applies to us - what are we tolerating from ourselves? Do we talk harshly to ourselves, do we skip over the satisfaction at the end of a project to rush on to the next one, do we let a bad habit slide even though it is diminishing us, do we let go of dreams or hopes, or deny ourselves things that seem frivolous but which would lift us up? Again, if we are tolerating bad treatment from ourselves - why are we allowing this?

This morning I am wondering:

- what is it I tolerate from others that is making me feel less energetic or less like myself?

And also - what is it I am tolerating from myself that makes me feel less than?

Honouring ourselves and protecting our energy and resources can be the fastest way to feel better and start making the impact on the world that we want to.

❤️ 🌍

#coaching #coachinglife #leadership #leadershipdevelopment #selfdevelopment #selfdevelopmenttools #selfdevelopmentjourney #feelingtired #overworked #overworkedandunderpaid #empowerment #boundaries #healthyboundaries #leadbyexample

It was a dream of mine to make a self-development

It was a dream of mine to make a self-development book for kids that was fun, inclusive and useful. It was a lot more work than I expected, but then the best things usually are! I am really looking forward to sharing this book with you and before that the cover reveal! (Link in bio).

If you’re interested in an inclusive, diverse book for children that teaches them about self-love, self acceptance, diversity and resilience I hope you’ll come and have a look at Perfect.

This lively group includes children with a port wine stain, a limb difference, a wheelchair, a visual impairment, a cleft lip and Down’s syndrome - but the book is not about that. It’s about loving and accepting our bodies and ourselves, the fact that life is hard sometimes but gets better and that we can ride out the storms.

Perfect will be out this summer, release date and cover reveal coming soon (soonest to subscribers!).

🌎 ❤️ 🦾 🧡👩🏾‍🦽 💛👨🏿‍🦯 💚 👯‍♂️ 💙 📖

#love #selflove #selfacceptance #selfcare #childrenspicturebooks📚 #childrensbooks #childrenbookshop #picturebooks #diversity #inclusion #visualimpairment #downsyndrome #cleftlip #limbdifference #portwinestain #kids #kidsofinstagram

Over 15 years ago I was lucky enough to study in C

Over 15 years ago I was lucky enough to study in China for 6 months and I was treated kindly by students, teachers and passersby. Yes there were definitely some preconceptions about me because of my race, but these were often overcome with one heart to heart conversation. I never felt afraid and always felt free to explore and talk to strangers even when travelling alone in Asia. It makes me feel sad to think people feel at risk just because they look a certain way. Especially because more recently they have been selected for scapegoating by cynical individuals who have shaken members of the public up like wasps in a jar, until their insecurities and fears have spiralled out of control, and then simply pointed them at a convenient target.

I’ve met people all over the world and the thing I’ve found to be true (weirdly) is that the xenophobic and rascist people of all races and nationalities have had so much in common they almost seemed to be the same person ( but they would never have found that out because they wouldn’t be the people getting to know each other!) and all the loving, accepting and interested people of all races were also very similar (and often gave great hugs).

People hung up on race are not in relationship with themselves, having got stuck at a level of territory, tribalism, aggression and acting out - a superficial level - literally only skin deep. Superficial enough to distract from deep pain and confusion.

We need to protect every member of the human race and we need to teach every person how to manage their own negative emotions instead of projecting them. We can only move forward together.

#stopasianhate #stopracism #endracism #asian #endwhitesupremacy #lovenothate

It’s spring! So great to get outside and see all

It’s spring! So great to get outside and see all the new life popping up 🌸🌼🌻

"As Eckart points out men also have access to the

"As Eckart points out men also have access to the sacred feminine. It is also fair to say that women have access to the sacred masculine. A healthy society values both equally. This might translate as motherhood being valued equally highly as being a film star or a successful business person. Or the health of the planet being valued as highly as GDP. Unfortunately this is not yet the case."

Check out this beautifully written blog post written by Michael Arnold of FEAT Acupuncture (link in bio).

I feel that the feminine principle is one of the most misunderstood - a quality to be found in both men and women, with advantages for us all to cultivate. I wrote about the feminine principle in my book the Art of Coming Home, in the chapter about acceptance because there is a significant connection between our ability to accept and our access to our own feminine energy. The Art of Coming Home is available on Amazon in the UK and coming soon to other countries. 🏡❤️📖

#feminine #feminineenergy #sacredfeminine #women #men #balance #globalhealth #connection #community #integration

Nothing like kicking back with some classic Disney

Nothing like kicking back with some classic Disney while working on my picture book! 🏠 🐭 👩‍👦‍👦👨‍👧‍👧 📖 💕 #picturebook #picturebookillustration #childrensbooks #disney #houseofmouse #classicdisney #selfhelp #selfhelpbooks

I wrote a poem called A Rising Storm and it was ju

I wrote a poem called A Rising Storm and it was just released in my 3 min podcast episode on @amoytpodcast (link in bio).

The episode is called The Courage to Create because I wanted to encourage anyone who's having a tough time creating/ working on a project and perhaps feeling a bit under supported - I feel your pain! And keep going, anyone with the time to criticise you is probably not the person whose opinion you need to give weight to.

A Moment of Your Time is a great podcast with delicious bite-sized chunks of inspiration and insight you can check out whenever you need a boost or to learn or feel something. In their words it is a space for "artistic expression, collaboration, community and solidarity" and I have really loved listening to a lot of the episodes. 🎶🙌🦅🌤

#inspiration #poetry #poems #poemsofinstagram #writer #writersofinstagram #writersblock #creativity #creative #creativelifehappylife #love #lovenothate

I am loving the splash of yellow in the room from

I am loving the splash of yellow in the room from my daffodils, it’s really feeling like spring in the UK this week!! 🌼🌼🌼🌱🦔 #feelslikespring #spring #springiscoming #springflowers #daffodils #daffodils🌼 #feelinggood #feelinghappy

In these sometimes tense times it is easy for rela

In these sometimes tense times it is easy for relationships to become strained and for us to blame and criticise others more than we normally would.

I contributed to an article on Up Journey all about this, why not have a read of some great tips from a range of experts on how to keep things healthy and positive (link in bio). Here is an extract from my contribution:

"Looking at how we feel while criticizing others will start to give us a clue as to what we are trying to avoid feeling.

For many of us, it is simply fear of being out of control and if we can control those around us we may feel more empowered, even if it is a short-lived feeling and does not help us to feel safer in the long term."

We all do it sometimes, but although we might feel guilty about it - these judgements can be valuable. They tell us a lot about ourselves and our shadow, and are a great place to start an exploration of our less-integrated parts.

If you decide to reflect more deeply on these judgements, remember to always be kind to yourself and if you feel you need some extra guidance, a counsellor or a coach may be very helpful to you in this process. 👣 🧘‍♀️ 🌤

#upjourney #criticism #selfcriticism #control #anxiety #blame #victim #empowerment #shadow #shadowwork #integration #selflove #compassion #selfhelp #selfdevelopment

Took the road less travelled and extremely muddy o

Took the road less travelled and extremely muddy on my walk today and came across a robin who stood his ground! 🌳 🥾 🧡 #walk #walking #nature #naturelovers #bird #birdsofinstagram #natureisbeautiful

If you are in the mood for a fun and often randome

If you are in the mood for a fun and often randomest of random chats, you might enjoy my podcast interview with @akselerzincliogluauthor on So Long and Thanks for All the Books (link in bio).

But if you are pressed for time, here are some of the topics we touch upon that might interest you:

Me on my books (and self-publishing, learning things, writing, getting over perfectionism): 22:55

Doing acupuncture on insurance people (actuarypuncture): 27:50

Importance of getting out of fight-or-flight to do meaningful healing/ bodywork: 29

My experiences of cultural friction between western and eastern medicine in the early noughties: 34

Doing alternative therapy and navigating cultural differences: 35:30

Mind-body connection, and how to change in a lasting way: 38:30

My random marathon experiences: 58:30

Earthworm Jim: 107:50

I hope you enjoy it! 😊 🎙 📖 🐬

#selfhelp #selfdevelopment
#selfpublishing #IngramSparkAuthor #booksbooksbooks #bookstagram #authorsofinstagram
#amwriting #writersofig #author #indieauthors #writerscommunity #writersnetwork #writingtips #writerslife #writenow #writingtip #writingadvice #advicetowriters #advicetoauthors #writergram #writersclub #writersonig #publishing #selfpublishing #selfpub #selfpublishedauthor #indiewriter #ingramspark #podcast #earthwormjim

Whoever you are loving today; partners, family, fr

Whoever you are loving today; partners, family, friends, furry friends or delivery drivers, don’t forget to send a big dollop to yourself, whatever that looks like! Happy Valentine’s Day! ♥️🥰 🤗 #selflove #selfcare #love #loveyourself #loveislove #valentines

In this article for @thrive global I discuss tools

In this article for @thrive global I discuss tools for cultivating emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness. Check out one of the tips for feeling better emotionally below, and click the link in the bio to read the rest.

- Do not reject negative emotions, but also do not wallow in them. While some people seem to swim in a pool of negativity, others seem to be attempting to fly above negative thoughts and refuse their existence. Neither is a balanced approach. A lot of people are saying “don’t surrender to the fear of the pandemic”. Well, fear is a natural response to danger — almost a sign of sanity. If you are not feeling a little bit of fear about the situation there is probably something wrong with you. But after feeling it, what do you do — go into a spiral of 24 hour news and worst-case scenario-worries, fight with it to try and defeat it, subscribe to a theory from an “expert on the internet” that tells you there is nothing to worry about? I recommend when you feel a difficult emotion at first just breathe, experience the emotion as it is before you allow your mind to attach thoughts or a story to it. Then just accept it, accept the discomfort without needing it to be different. If you need to, express your emotion — through drawing, writing, screaming into a pillow or movement, perhaps. Then consciously shift your focus to what you want to think about. This is not repressing the emotion, it is just putting things in perspective and choosing where you put your attention. After all, at any given time we might be experiencing a wide range of emotions but are not aware of them because we are thinking about something else. If you try fighting an emotion you will lose, but through listening to it and then deciding where to put your focus you can stay centred.

You can also find more self-help tips on my site and YouTube channel (link in bio). 😊🙌✨

#thriveglobal #emotionalwellbeing #mentalhealth #physicalhealth #spiritualwellbeing #selfcare #selflove #selfhelpbook #selfdevelopment #selfdevelopmentskills #selfhelp

I was thinking about the things we go through when

I was thinking about the things we go through when we step up to the challenge of completing a project and then putting it out into the world when I wrote today's blog article (link in bio).

Some people who have not yet taken their first steps on that journey may think successful people are somehow different to them. That people who succeed have some invisible, rarified quality. In fact a lot of it is just hard work, humility, faith and a desire to bring something into the world.

If you’re looking for some motivation or some advice on completing projects, check out my blog and also let me know what you’re working on! I love hearing about peoples projects and dreams ♥️🙌✨

#creativity #creative #goals #completingthemission #selfdevelopment #selfdevelopmenttools #authorsofinstagram #bookstagram #coaching #coach #makingchange #changemaker #motivation #mondaymotivation

I loved contributing to the #authoritymagazine int

I loved contributing to the #authoritymagazine interview series on optimising mental, physical, emotional and spiritual wellness. In the article I share many helpful tips which you can read on their site (link in bio). Many of us are on zoom a lot at the moment and have been feeling the effects of being disconnected from others, listening to stressful news and experiencing widening division in society. Even for the most relaxed of us it can have a cumulative effect so taking time for some intentional self-care is so important right now.

Why not choose one of the tips I recommend and incorporate it into your life and see how you start to feel better? And please comment or message me and let me know how you get on with it!!

#selfcare #selflove #quarantinelife #mentalhealth #emotionalwellbeing #coaching #spirituality #spiritualinspiration #physicalhealth #authentic #wellbeing

It's fun to see my book stocked in two of the libr

It's fun to see my book stocked in two of the libraries I went to when I was little! I have many fond memories of perusing the shelves and coming home with new treasures.

And if you happen to be in the area I highly recommend a visit to Leigh Library which was originally build around 1838 as a rectory and sits in a lovely garden looking down on old Leigh and its fishing boats.

I hope that someone in Southend or Leigh gets some enjoyment and support from The Art of Coming Home. 📖 ♥️ 🏖

#artofcominghome #library #librariesofinstagram #librarybooks #librarylife #leighonsea #southendonsea #southendliving #leighlibrary #leighlibrarygardens

As an amazing course in Psychosynthesis Leadership

As an amazing course in Psychosynthesis Leadership coaching drew to a close today, it made me think about the value of an intentional ending. I have grown so much through taking this journey with such a wonderful group of people, and although I am sad to know that part of our journey has ended, I am so excited to see what we all do in the world and how we continue to support each other.

So today I learned the power of ending things with whole-hearted presence and intentionality. Do you feel that you still have unresolved endings or loose threads from your past? Or perhaps there is an ending you would like to complete but have not yet felt able to? It is great to remember that drawing things to a close or a completion at the right time can be the most loving and responsible thing to do for everyone involved. So here's to beautiful endings and the beginnings they make possible.

#psychosynthesis #leadership #coaching #leadershipcoaching #authenticleadership #authentic #bestlife #coach #coachinglife #psychosynthesiscoaching #authorsofinstagram

Take your child on an inclusive and imaginative ad

Take your child on an inclusive and imaginative adventure through space, nature, dance studios and the streets this year!

All about diversity, self-acceptance, love, resilience and self-expression this unique book has exercises you can do together that kids can remember and use on their own when they need a boost.

Sign up for news of the book and receive a free colouring book before the release day (link in bio)!

I know your kids will love this colourful and exciting adventure. ♥️ 📖 🚀✨

#motivationmonday #diversekidsbooks #diversebooks #childrensbooks #kidsbooks #picturebook #bookstagram #wheelchair #inclusion #wheelchairlife #disabled #DisabledKids #amplife #amputeekids #prosthesis #downsyndrome #asiankids #blackkids #balletboy #visuallyimpairedkids #Blind #SightLoss #PartiallySighted #spacekids #portwinestain #birthmark #selflove #selfacceptance #love

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